January 1, 2019

What better time to start writing again?

I liked the idea of writing this daily blog but the pressure of finding something more interesting for the next day tripped up my consistency. Let's try something else. Let's try something casual. Just a bit of pause and words about my day - what I learned, experienced, or dreamed up. A quick summary.

Danielle and I left our friend Jess' house after spending our New Years' there with more dogs than Internet. (Jess has six.) We drove back from upstate New York through most of the day. From time to time, I would steal away from the car-ride conversation to read an article or dive into this stupid mobile puzzle game I'm addicted to playing. But I was inspired by a passage Mark Manson highlighted from The Coddling of the American Mind by Jonathan Haidt and Gregory Lukianoff in his latest end-of-the-year post:

From time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated unfairly, so that you will come to know the value of justice. I hope that you will suffer betrayal because that will teach you the importance of loyalty. Sorry to say, but I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you don’t take friends for granted. I wish you bad luck, again, from time to time so that you will be conscious of the role of chance in life and understand that your success is not completely deserved and that the failure of others is not completely deserved either. And when you lose, as you will from time to time, I hope every now and then, your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is a way for you to understand the importance of sportsmanship. I hope you’ll be ignored so you know the importance of listening to others, and I hope you will have just enough pain to learn compassion. Whether I wish these things or not, they’re going to happen. And whether you benefit from them or not will depend upon your ability to see the message in your misfortunes.